Story No. 144 – Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid’s proposal of Marriage
Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid’s proposal of Marriage Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid asked Nafisa, who was her close friend and whom she always trusted with her secrets, to speak to Hazrat Mohammed (saw) about marriage. Nafisa went to him and asked, ‘Why do you not get married?’ He answered, ‘My living conditions and financial situation do not allow me to get married’. Nafisa said, ‘Will you agree to get married if this problem is solved and a rich, beautiful, and honorable woman from a well-known family asks you to marry her?’
Hazrat Mohammed (saw) asked, ‘who is this woman you are talking about?’ Nafisa answered, ‘Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid’.
Hazrat Mohammed (saw) said, ‘How is it possible? She has rejected the proposals of many of the Quraish aristocrats and rich men. Would she marry me?’ Nafisa said, ‘This union is possible and I will arrange it.’
When he (saw) became quite sure of Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid’s inclination towards marriage with him, Hazrat Mohammed (saw) talked to his uncles about the matter. They were very pleased with this good news, and they attempted to arrange the marriage for their blessed nephew. And finally this auspicious marriage was celebrated with special ceremonies.
Hazrat Mohammed (saw) spent 25 years of his life with Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, who was not only a loving wife for him, but also his best and most helpful mate. This period is considered to be the best period of his married life.
Some of the researchers have said that Hazrat Fatima al-Zahra (sa) was her only child; however, most scholars say that she had other children as well.
Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, peace be upon her, was the first woman who believed in Hazrat Mohammed’s (saw) divine prophecy. She chose to marry Hazrat Mohammed (saw) who was financially in a lower class. After marriage, she devoted all her wealth in spreading Islam. Hazrat Mohammed (saw) said: “Khadijah’s wealth was the most useful wealth I ever had.” In the 6th year after Hazrat Mohammed’s (saw) appointment, when Muslims were surrounded in an area called “Sheb-E-Abu Talib”, Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid used her wealth and power among Quraish to help surrounded Muslims. She spent all of her wealth for Muslims to the extent that before her demise, she had nothing left. As saying goes, “Islam did not rise except through Ali’s sword and Khadijah’s wealth.”
Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid was so devoted to her husband and showed such great sympathy and self-sacrifice for him and for the promotion of his religion that not only did he love her dearly and respect her highly during her lifetime, but even after her death. Each time he remembered her, his blessed heart filled with sorrow and he wept at her loss. Hazrat Khadijah bint Khuwaylid’s brilliant sun of life set at the age of 65 in 619 CE, ten years after the actualization of prophetic mission of Hazrat Mohammed (saw).